Ever wonder what makes us feel and act like we do, especially in our most important relationships? Why is it so hard to connect or even get along with those who mean the most to us? The answer lies in the profound effect of a child's bonding process with his or her parents. How successfully we form and maintain relationships throughout life is related to these early issues of attachment. In this transformational book, the authors have used groundbreaking research to develop four primary patterns of relating that shed light on our actions?and how we can learn to love and be loved even better. This book gives readers the understanding and the tools to not only steer away from negative patterns and break free of past mistakes, but create new, satisfying connections with their spouse, children, close friends and God.