Recent history has given us, and supported the need for a new healthier, more emotionally mature parenting paradigm I call Talk Love Out Loud. Pro football players Ray Rice, blatantly punches his wife while being caught on video cameras, then Adrian Peterson child is blatantly bruised and abused as evidenced by pictures of the bruises, and superficial scars preserved on his body. Adrian flippantly using the excuse," that's how I was raised; "So that' is also the parenting style I choose to use." It was just plain wrong, that Adrian's parents used physical abuse on him growing up. And its just plain wrong that Adrian in turn also used physical abuse on his son claiming it was how I was raised so it must be ok. I too was raised in a less than desirable healthy communication conditions of verbal, and sometimes physical abuse. This history of abuse does not give me license, and, or excuse for being abusive towards my children.it is sad, real, and as I mention in the book violence in the home has the ability to shape our child's worldview about violence; That is it is the "natural order of things," and there is nothing wrong with using it in our parenting style. This is of course a blatant lie our enemy, and adversary would love for us to accept and believe as brute fact. And sure why not, we could reason that the liar, and destroyer of all that God has called good?, would not picking the family to buy the lie that that abuse, and punishment against children is ok, even acceptable as a way for his deception to filter into the family thereby reeking havoc, chaos, and turmoil against the God designed family. The foundational creation where in which individuals learn the eternal value worth, and meaning that is bestowed within persons of the family as they mutually love, honor, and respect each other injecting the indispensable quality, character, and disposition the family structure imprints upon every member of the family.
