The 30th anniversary edition of this bestselling classic--When Helping You Is Hurting Me has offered insight and healing for those who are trapped in toxic relationships where you do all the giving and the other person does all the taking. The dynamics and dangers of the Messiah Trap are revealed, as well as the seven messiah styles--pleaser, protector, giver, rescuer, counselor, teacher, and crusader. The author illustrates how taking on such roles as a means of establishing self-worth inevitably leads to personal pain and destruction of relationships and self-worth. In this anniversary edition, readers are given additional resources (digital and print) with links to online interactive exercises, worksheets and recovery tips.